A Teachers Identity

This video tells the powerful story of Kathy Petrelli, a longtime school secretary whose identity is deeply rooted in her role within the school community. After experiencing the devastating loss of her son—news she received while at work—her connection to that space became even more complex and emotional. Rather than stepping away, Kathy chose to return, finding comfort in the familiarity and purpose her job provided. This tragic experience ultimately deepened her compassion for others, shaping how she interacted with students and staff. Kathy’s story shows how educators often develop such a strong sense of identity through their work that it becomes inseparable from who they are. For Kathy, continuing her role was not just about a job—it was about holding onto a sense of self. While going back to work was a distraction from home, it also gave her back her identity. Kathy helps show why many educators struggle with retirement, as leaving the profession can feel like losing a core part of their identity and purpose.